my "dearest" problematic family history (part 1)

its a long long story...
my family have a very long and unpleasant story...
a history for my aunt,
a reminder for me,
and a story to tell...

story starts from my grandpa...
grandpa's father died when he was 16 years old...
mother raised the family by herself with her beloved eldest son (my grandpa), and few brothers and sisters after my grandpa reach 16.
due to the hardship that grandpa's mother gone through, he loves, respect and listen to his mother a lot.

grandpa and grandma knew each other through referral...
then apparently they got married.
they have 6 children.

grandma is a child of a well doing family, which doesn't require her to work hard or do household works, eventually she got used to being lazy.
but grandpa's family isn't having an easy life.
so grandma having a hard time to adjust to her new married life...
which she have to take care of grandpa's brothers and sisters, her own children and do household works...
and the family always have the bad impression that she is lazy.
eventually they discriminate her from the family...
the mother-in-law of grandma starts taking drugs, heroin, the "trendy" drug at that time...
so, by showing that she still have her son supporting her stand point, she make used of the relationship with her son to worsen the relationship of that couples.
which cause my grandparents not trusting each other.

grandma always bring along kids to grandpa's working place, quietly, asking her children to observe the situation.
if there s any chance for her to caught grandpa in the act with a girl sitting on his lap, she would go out and start making a scene.

to attract the attention of grandpa, grandma purposely get closed to a guy, which is a friend of my eldest aunt...
to gain attention and to show him that: you can find another women besides your marriage, me too~

the house starts to be noisy, unstable atmosphere all the time, kids afraid of those unpredictable endless fights and quarrels...
fight and quarrel around small little things without knowing that their children are in pain and scared, neglecting the needs of their children to be in a safe, storm less home...

doesn't matter about creating a scene...
doesn't matter that this might in fact affect the entire life of your children...
just want the opponent of yours to have a hard time maintaining the relationship...
just want the opponent of yours to have a hard time after the whole day of work...
just want to show everyone that : its not fair! i'm here! i'm here!!
just want to show...

not caring that the marriage has already become a nightmare...
worse nightmare for children at home...
worse childhood memory for growing up...